9. Invitation Wording

A few things fall under this tip

  • First, who is issuing the invitation? In a traditional situation, the bride's mother and father issue the invitation, inviting people to be a part of their daughters wedding. But if the grooms parents are equally involved or contributing financially, they might want to be included on the invitation as well. Perhaps you and your fiancee are issuing the invitation. In that case, the wording would be entirely different. In this day and age, there are many circumstances that require not-so-traditional wording. The brides parent's might be divorced, remarried or deceased. Luckily, for whatever the situation, we've got the wording down and we are here to help avoid embarrassment or hard feelings! Should there ever be a question that we haven't yet encountered, we've got Crane's Blue Book of Weddings to turn to. Those guys literally "wrote the book" on etiquette.

  • The second point here is knowing the details that need to be filled in on your wedding invitation. After you know who is issuing the invitation, the other information to include is who is getting married? When is it? What time? Where is it? Will there be a reception? If so, where is that reception? (Here you might want a reception card). For a sample of an invitation wording layout, click here.

  • The third and final point for invitation wording doesn't even really have anything to do with the invitation itself. These are just things that you also need to come prepared with. Once you've hammered out the details for what your actual invitation is going to say, you need to consider whose address will be used for the outer envelope (what your wedding invitation is mailed in), as well as what address you want on the response envelope/postcard. Typically you want these two addresses to be the same. Another thing to keep in mind is the response card. Do you want a response? There are many reasons you will need one, from keeping track of your guest list and who exactly is coming, to giving a final number to your caterer for the food. A response card is great for all of these reasons. Having them a few weeks in advance of your wedding is always helpful, allowing time for stragglers to get their responses in. Sometimes planners, venues or caterers want the numbers further out. For that you will need to consult with them on the final date you can receive responses and plan accordingly. For any other cards you may need to include in your wedding suite, being prepared with a sample wording is great, but your designer can always help you figure out what needs to be said.